“No might make them angry but it will make you free.” Nayyirah Waheed
Have you been raised to say yes to everything to please others or maintain a certain image of yourself? This is what my upbringing has been like. Sexually, I didn’t even realize until I was in my 20s that I could actually experience and ask for pleasure. I was socially conditioned to derive satisfaction from satisfying a partner. It took me a while to understand who I was inside, what my needs were and start communicating them. It’s still an on-going learning journey for me. To speak my truth, negotiate what I need and find a balance between giving and receiving.
Keeping in mind we have multiple boundaries to become aware of and feel into – physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, social, sexual… Are you good at saying No?