difficult emotions

Managing difficult emotions

LEARNING TO MANAGE DIFFICULT EMOTIONS

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” — Sigmund Freud

… Pain. This familiar intense feeling of burning usually starts just below my navel, radiating up through my chest… Creating an excruciating pressing sensation between my breasts and moving up towards the throat. This energy – wanting to come out as a scream, a cry… Tears appearing and pouring out of my eyes. And another wave – covering me head to toe…

What we have to discover

“What we have to discover is that there’s no safety, that seeking is painful, and that when we imagine that we have found it, we don’t like it.”

Alan Watts

I remember reading a book called “The happiness trap” It’s centered around a premise that happiness is an elusive state. Highly valued, relentlessly perused, rarely experienced. Ironically, the harder we try to buy, seize, or closet happiness, the less likely we are to be happy. Indeed, even talking about “how we can be happy” often leaves us with a sense of dissatisfaction – the happiness trap.

Managing Difficult Emotions: P3

Managing Difficult Emotions, Three part Series. Part three. (Please read previous parts here: Part One & Part Two) 4. Processing Processing happens differently for different emotions and people Hitting a sofa with a pillow, having a temper tantrum on the floor when alone and ripping paper are great ways to release anger Crying and journaling work […]

Would you like to take control in the bedroom?

Would you like to take control in the bedroom?

Exude confidence paired up with inner strength? Embrace your inner Disciplinarian? Or would you like to submit to a strong Dominant partner?

When creating a Domination / Submission experience, please consider:

The kind of fantasy you’d like to play out

Would you use an element of bondage? (verbal directions to prevent your partner from moving, handcuffs, a rope or a tie)
Would you ask your submissive (sub) to service you? (Examples could include giving you pleasure, a massage, telling you compliments)
Would you punish them if they were disobedient? If so, in what way?

Your Pain

Your pain

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
Khalil Gibran

Sounds quite true to me. While pain is uncomfortable – it does lead to new understandings, beginnings and openings…

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Mindful Sex

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Kickstarter Personal Stories – Dad

Kickstarter Personal Stories – Dad Lovely, you know what happened today? I told my dad that I’d launched a Kickstarter campaign (https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/spiritsexlab/alice-in-polyland)… A bit of a background – my dad is a highly intellectual & intelligent man, with a PhD in engineering and a long standing love for writing with several published books up his […]

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Meditation on Body Centered Emotions – Aftermath

WORKSHOP @gildasclubtoronto Just reflecting back on today’s workshop at Gilda’s Club – meditating on body-centered emotions… What an experience. 9 soulful women, fighters, cancer thrivers all in different stages of cancer journeys… Different diagnosis. Yet so similar inside. Working through pain, fear, rage and loss… Multidimensional revamping of their whole being. A hard reboot so […]

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Meditation on Body-Centered Emotions – 10/12/2018

I’m thrilled to be teaching Meditation on Body-Centered Emotions at Gilda’s Club Greater Toronto (GCGT). This wonderful organization is a registered charity that is making an important difference for cancer patients, their family and friends in the Greater Toronto Area. Where: Gilda’s Club Greater Toronto (GCGT) When: October 12, 2018, 1.00pm Price: Complimentary Meditation on […]

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Pains are Messengers

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” Rumi Was just listening to Tony Robbins audio books on personal growth and he mentions that negative emotions serve a very powerful purpose: they signal that a change is needed. What should we do once we notice this signal? Listen, accept and utilize it. He suggests […]