Finding partners at a Sex Club
Question: I am OK with my wife having sex with other people. She is not OK with the reverse (other than maybe some limited touching), and I’m 100% fine with that. I understand that you generally hang out in the bar area and chat up other couples, but is it generally kosher to ask just the guy to come play with us, or is there an expectation that we play as a couple? I’m sure it varies by person, but I guess I’m asking if there are general lines of etiquette we shouldn’t cross?
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- It’s great to know your preferences and boundaries. Once you know what type of experience you’re looking for you can always negotiate / communicate this to others. You can ask couples if they play separately, you can even play side by side or negotiate light touch, versus oral, or vaginal. You can also come out on single guys nights and find a suitable partner for your wife.
- Additionally, one of the misconceptions I often come across during my guided tour Q and A portion is many people entering the sex club scene for the first time think that it’s extremely easy to find a sexual partner at the party and connect right away. Usually, your best bet is to come with a partner. You may also get to know others: chat, have drinks together and potentially meet again to play. Occasionally you might end up having a spontaneous play experience, but I’d say it’s a lot less common than one might think.
- If you have a specific fantasy – it might actually be easier to meet someone online, go for a coffee / drink first to get all of the questions our of the way and see if there’s chemistry. Then meet at the club once you have the plan.
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