Can you join us for spicy play? Looking for another couple to swing! Would love to please you and your partner any way you’d like! These are just some of the messages that frequently end up in my DMs.
While I’m not looking for casual play – I noticed how many of us are missing more exploration, playful experiences and sensual outings! Here’s an excerpt from www.aliceinpolyland.com book of Real Life Erotica written by yours truly with practical tips on accomplishing sensually wild fantasies. Read it to spice things up and get creative playful juices going!
For more in person guidance, join my upcoming Sex Club Tour on October 29th to meet other sexy couples, singles, boost your self confidence and learn new spicy ways to play! Register: https://spiritsexlab.as.me/sexclubtour
Group sex is one of the most common fantasies — the experience can bring lots of pleasure and fun. Multiple configurations are possible in conjunction with adding submission and domination, playing with various settings and adding creativity and mystery into the mix.
Group sex doesn’t have to adhere to any type of established formula. Additionally one can take gradual steps towards reaching this fantasy making sure that all parties’ boundaries and preferences are respected and jealousy and insecurities are well managed. It could also be kept as a fantasy and explored through dirty talk, use of toys and imagination.
When creating a Group Sex Play, please consider the following points. Possible configurations, options and ways to prepare for the experience:
- Conceptualize and communicate with the others the kind of sexual play you’d like to have
- Feel into your potential partner preferences
(Sexual orientation, gender identity, BDSM preferences, tantric experiences) - Contemplate on a fantasy you may want to bring to life (think whether you’d like to include elements of role play, domination/submission or just go for straight lustful connection exploration and be in the moment)
Gradual steps of testing the waters
- Keep in mind that you don’t need to jump head first into any specific experience unless you feel fully ready. Conceptualize. Communicate. Take small steps towards your goal — no need to rush.
Where to meet potential partners
- Feel into the best places to meet like-minded folks —online, at swinger parties or munches and sex clubs (post Covid lol)
Setting expectations, turn-ons, and turn-offs, on-going enthusiastic and clear consent
- Make a note of your own preferences and turn-offs and learn from your potential partners of their own preferences and possible issues. Work together to conceptualize the best experience for all
Negotiations and boundaries guidelines
- Negotiate in an open, kind and respectful manner, outline and become aware of each other’s boundaries. Focus on bringing as much pleasure and play
as possible to everyone involved
Sex safety
- Educate yourself about potential STI risks, make sure to communicate and share important information about testing, types of tests done, number of partners and unprotected sexual experiences prior to setting up a play scene
- Please keep in mind that certain types of STIs such as HPV (Human papilloma virus) and HSP 1 and 2 (Cold sores and genital herpes) are not being tested for unless there are symptoms
- Another important point to remember is asymptomatic shedding of these viruses takes place regardless of the presence of any types of symptoms and the viruses are contracted skin to skin (condoms do not provide 100% protection)
- Please consider researching and discussing STI protection as part of your self-care routine
Have an amazing time!
